I always wonder why people are so obsessed with marriage. To me marriage is the combining of the lives of two people who love, respect, and cherish one another to the point where they can’t bear to be separated. That’s it. That’s what it should be but of course it isn’t. Marriage instead is like a military camp no pun intended. Lucky for me I have an unusual obsession with the military. So basically there is a lot of ups and downs, shouting and yelling, physical pain, emotional pain, fighting, little sleep, lots of baggage, and so on. Ok so marriage isn’t all bad. The thing that I don’t understand though is why we make marriage and love so hard. Why can’t we just have fun and not take it extremely seriously? Maybe that’s why there are so many divorces. People just become so overwhelmed because things are not “perfect”. Things aren’t they way they want it to be. They start finding faults, problems start to arise, you don’t treat each other like you used to, things start to change, you grow apart, you feel like you’re missing out on something, one of you cheats, there’s always fights, you let yourselves go, you forget about each other, and this list can go on and on and on. I mean we need to get a grip on ourselves here. We need to stand back and really look at the whole picture on why this always happens. Maybe because we make it happen. I believe it’s always on us. We need to stop living in La La land and come back to Earth. We need to think logically and not logically like people tell you to think, logically like you tell yourself to think. We need to listen to ourselves first. To me it feels like no one listens to themselves because if we did we wouldn’t be in half the messes we got ourselves into.
So why do we rush ourselves into marriage when we know we are not ready? Especially since we know all the bad things that come out of it? Why can’t we just wait until we fully understand the commitment and dedication marriage takes? Ooo that was trick question. Actually we are never really ready to get married and if you can grasp that fact and understand it and believe in it then you can go get married. This is why I don’t want to see young people thinking about marriage. They have no business thinking about it whatsoever. I find it so unbelievable that young teenagers are asking about marriage, wanting to know about it, trying to get engaged. Um excuse me. I know some of us are Muslims and Islam encourages young marriage but in this time and age I just don’t see it as the best option. I’m ready to get married they say. Please, just because you said that means you’re not.
I actually think marriage is a beautiful thing, don’t get me wrong. A beautiful military camp and I can’t wait until I get married. I believe it’s exciting, scary, and so much fun. And of course this only happens if you marry someone who is within your range of expectations and Inshallah we all do and Inshallah we all have happy and successful marriages. But I believe marriage happens when it’s meant to happen. We all know if God wrote for it to happen it will happen…Until then we all must enjoy life. Oh yeah and it doesn’t hurt to pray for a good marriage!!!
