THE FEAR OF THE SUCCESSFUL WOMAN

Welcome to my circle of strong, ambitious, and demanding women. If you are the type of woman who sits around all day daydreaming about the day of your wedding-excuse me but please GET OUT OF HERE! (I hope you all saw my quite please in the beginning) I have never been the type of women swooning over gorgeous men who know how to sweet talk a women into loving them (on accident of course) and dreaming about how much money he should spend on my wedding and how great our life is going to be. I mean please; does my writing even suggest I am that kind of person? Because if it does, please tell me-politely of course- to stop writing publicly. Anyways my point is maybe I should GET OUT of my own circle and form a new one called WOMEN COMPROMISERS where women who own billion dollar companies can come in and talk about how they “compromised” with their husbands that they will cook dinner every two years or so or better yet form a circle with women who could complain to each other about how they can’t find a man who will accept their ambitiousness or how their husbands are a bunch of controlling jealous a-holes who aren’t able to see how perfect their life could be if only he would shut up about how she lives her life and what she does in it. That’s where I come in and demand to know why she doesn’t hire a lawyer (I’ve already gotten my divorce lawyer prepared for my divorce and how it’s going to go down and I am not even married yet) and kick more than his ass to the curb. No joke.

I have always wondered why Arab men have to be such chauvinists when it comes to women, money, and careers. For God sake men let it go and stop being such bigots. The reason we go out and have careers is because we WANT to not because we want to flaunt it in your face and start singing “na na nana na I make more money than yoooou and I’m just a giiiirl” and then stick out our tongues at you like some two year old, excluding me of course; I still do that all the time-- it’s my guilty pleasure. Anyways I know men want to feel strong and manly and want to have power over women and want to feel that a woman needs them and yatta yatta yatta but uh habibi hate to bust your bubble but who said us successful ambitious women don’t want that? Trust me, we want a strong masculine man in our life and trust me he will have power over us if we love him, and I hate to say this but we need our men. We just don’t need you to run our lives with your cultural ways. So please enlighten me, exactly what are you chauvinists afraid of?

All I know is that if my man gave me such a hard time for being me than I will calmly walk to our bedroom, grab a duffel bag and stuff anything I see that is his into it, walk calmly back out, thrust it into his arms, and nicely escort him to the door, then to his car, then finally while giving him a quick peck on the cheek tell him to have a nice life with his secretary and I’ll send the rest of his stuff to him ASAP. It’s simple as saying your name if you ask me but then again I have always been simple - wink wink. If that is what you are afraid of simply do not be an SOB about your women’s life. Live your life let her live hers and meet up in bed every chance you get. So very simple. Erase your expectations men and women. Live life like how it’s supposed to be lived. Be happy and in love. This society tends to make everything harder, but then again at the end it is all up to you. I am really sad that we females have to pay an enormously expensive price for our success and that men are intimidated by us, preferring women who need protecting and who can’t live without them. I know one of my biggest fears is not finding a man willing to accept and support my ambitions and dreams. I know this fear is in most successful women worldwide. How could men be like this? How could a man give up the chance of loving and living a nice life with a successful beautiful woman? That’s just insanity. I mean if the woman was all caught up in her career and she makes it known that that is the most important thing in her life then I believe men have a reason to run far away from her. But what about the successful women who want live a happy married life and would take their marriage seriously and love their husbands with all their being? Men, how could you deny successful women the right to marry happily and stay married happily? Are you men that insecure? All I know is that I will never settle less than what I deserve and it makes me realize that I must ask my husband-to-be(whoever that would be) some important questions before I lose sight of my beliefs and fall blindly into his arms before realizing he was a chauvinist all along. It’s not like I’m hoping to use my divorce lawyer or anything…